Millions of people use online dating services and many have excellent outcomes. But, as with anything you do online, you need to take some precautions — especially if you plan to meet with the person.
If you arrange an in-person meeting with someone you meet online, make sure the first meeting is in a public place, like a restaurant, and let others know where you’re going to be. Bring along your cell phone and have a friend call you during the meeting just to make sure all is going well.
Be aware of online dating scams. There are cases where seniors, as well as younger people, have been scammed into parting with their money and left heartbroken. With anyone you meet online, there is always the possibility they may not be who they claim to be.
Watch for red flags. They can include a person who claims or looks to be a lot younger than you or who sends you a picture that looks as if it came from a fashion site. The FBI warns people to be careful about anyone who claims to be from the U.S. who is traveling or working overseas and suggests that you only deal with reputable dating sites. Other red flags include the person pressuring you to leave the dating site to communicate via email or text messaging or someone who professes instant feelings of love. Be suspicious of anyone who is never actually available for a face-to-face meeting.
Look for abnormalities in the way a person writes and the type of grammar and words they use. It may not mean anything but it could be a sign that they are in a foreign country and may have no intention of actually meeting you.
Don’t send money. Be especially suspicious and don’t send money if the person asks for money, perhaps to get on a plane to come meet you or to help them deal with a personal or family crisis.
Be careful with alcohol . It’s OK to have a drink with someone but don’t overdue it. You want to maintain control. And be concerned if your date drinks heavily. You might not want to be with someone who is drunk.
Only use reputable dating apps. If you’re not familiar with the app, do a little research and read reviews to make sure it’s legitimate.
Use the app’s safety tools. Some dating apps — starting with Tinder — are now offering a “panic button” in the app that can alert authorities if you feel you’re in danger. Most dating apps have safety advice and reporting features so use them if you need them. Also most apps allow you to communicate with potential dates without having to use email or text messages. This is a good way to protect your privacy and security.
Follow your instincts. If you’re uncomfortable, it’s probably a good time to end the date